Take Ownership Of Our Desires
Here Siannon speaks about how self discipline is a self understanding and agreement based on the desire to move with ease and flow into our manifested lives'. Within my world renowned Online Transformation Academy this is something we take very seriously if you are to achieve your goals.
Self discipline has 2 different components, responsibility and commitment. To commit is to put our energy into something. To be responsible is to take charge of that thing. To be self disciplined is to really take ownership of our desires and to imbue our practise with these qualities so our projections can manifest and we can feel a positive movement in our lives.
To show up time and time again to our practice we all know is sometimes not an easy feat, there may come a resistance and we may be met with apathy, that's ok. Apathy can be a genuine part of ourselves with good reason based in experience that says "ahh, I don't actually care, my level of motivation today isn't so high", which can be an emotion perceived as a fairly low level vibration we may want to transcend. But then this may not be the complete picture, often there's that other simultaneous part of ourselves that cares a lot and says "ohh, if I don't go then I'll miss out and mess up the continuity of my training programme!" This time of inner conflict is the a time to bring these two aspects of ourselves together as if they were separate beings and be moderator of an open conversation between them, our mission being, how can these two inner facets be in agreement so that we can move as one towards what we've set out to do?
Questions to ask might be, 'why doesn't the lazy part of me want to step up to the training?', 'What is preventing it from wanting to participate in our target?' 'What reasons does it have that the committed part should hear?', and 'what does the committed part have to express to the lazy part?', 'does it have any suggestions as to how both can get their wants met and be at peace with a negotiated outcome?'.
In every healthy resolution there comes not just your way or my way, but a third way that isn't a compromise where painful sacrifices need to be made, but a deal that meets both of our best interests. And perhaps without this open conversation we may come from to an agreement which we may not have even thought of that is so much better than dragging these reluctant parts of ourselves to objectives we don't wholeheartedly want.
This ability to repair any rupture in our sense of self discipline will create a strong and secure relationship with our practice as it will be taking care of our difficulties rather than living despite them. The important thing here is to see all sides of ourselves as valid with opinion and not to force or suppress any parts of ourselves doing harm in order to keep on track.
Other emotional guides to self discipline are guilt and regret. Negative emotion is here to point us in the right direction. So hypothetically speaking, which do you regret and feel guilty about more, lazying on the couch all evening or showing up and giving your best workout?
Let's be honest sometimes our best might just be hanging out on the couch all day even, and that's also ok, your lazy self probably has good reason to want to do that. Once we let go of resistance and allow ourselves to honestly go in the directions we want, we can work through them and come out the other end of going with the flow, this is the very opposite of the suppression of our desires. Maybe the outcome is we get a little bored with stagnation, and with this allowed experience we can find contrast and movement with the way we would actually like our lives to be and thus climb the emotional scale by listening to this inner guide.
It is not helpful to feel guilty about what other people think you should do, only you know what's best and the only comparison worth making is where you are now against your concept of bliss. Discipline is a measure of how close or far you are aligned with that feeling, how right or wrong the action you are taking registers.
For me and my meditation practise, sometimes it just takes a seated position and three mindful breaths to get the ball rolling, as starting of with an easy target can really put us in the mood for expanding our limits. Sometimes after 3 mindful breaths I stay half an hour or more and if not, I've done 3 mindful breaths, wahey! That's another drop in the bucket of my practise and soon after many small or large feats I can take a shower with that collection of experience.
What also works magnificently for keeping ourselves aligned is the support of a community. Loneliness makes a struggle ten times or more worse, but the ability to reflect and work out our hang ups with friends is the key to sustaining and regenerating a committed practise. It can really help to clear the cobwebs and polish the stain glass in front of the light of our inspiration. A third party can even help you have those inner parts spoken out loud and listened to completely objectively.
It is good to remember also that our thoughts control our resonance, so if we are taking a self disciplined action it needs to come from a good feeling and positive thoughtful place to be easily performed. Putting ourselves in the right mindset by choosing thoughts that make us feel better, remembering our intentions and acting from a place of inspiration is essential for keeping maintaining self discipline.
You are always free to choose how to manage your life, taking empowered decisions expresses our discipline. It is inevitable that our focus may waver from time to time, but evolution is only possible with a goal to move to and discomfort to move away from. Where you are now is exactly where you need to be, if you can approve of that you will be motivated.
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